“Don’t tell anyone,” one of my neighbors told me when he came over to borrow some

7 min readDec 5, 2020

Some examples of classic ‘Christian’ passive-aggressive behavior include: Being late for things, withholding tithes and offerings, procrastination, ‘forgetfulness,’ sullenness, stubbornness, not inviting certain people to events and activities, resistance to change, avoiding others, talking behind other’s backs and, of course, sarcasm.

Notwithstanding the fact that many non-believers are just as nice, if not nicer than many Christians, I would say that ‘nice’ is actually a veneer that covers what’s really going on. It distracts and it obscures, and sometimes even leads to untruth. We can turn up to church and absolutely loath certain people who are sharing the sanctuary with us, but we slap on a smile and pretend that everything is great — in the name of love and keeping the peace.
Even when they disappointment me, my negative emotions towards them are brief and momentary, and quickly surrender to the delight that I experience simply in the fact that they are my children and I love them. Should the situation ever arise — God forbid — where they got into a position where they needed saving at my own expense, I would not even have to think. I would act — almost instinctively. Now, I suppose that if I would do that — even though I am an imperfect Father — that God would feel it all the more.

The most enduring and prolific metaphor that is used to describe God in the Bible is the image of him as a loving Father. I’d like to think of myself as a loving father as well — though I make no claims to being even close to perfect. But, as a loving father, I look at my own children, and I do not see them as depraved and wicked. I actually delight in them.

What is the point of sublimity if it is not personal and original by the author himself? Despite becoming a part of the group track and having met reconstructions with the lyrics with his collaborators, Kim Taehyung ascertained that his personal touches will be recognised especially by his loyal listeners.

Many of us don’t like who we have become in this pandemic but feel little freedom to choose otherwise. Officially, we may be wearing our masks to protect others, but it sure does feel appropriate to hide our faces when we’re engaging in so many self-interested, survivalist activities in the light of day — leveraging whatever privilege we may enjoy to stock and equip our homes so they can serve as makeshift bunkers, workplaces, private schools, and hermetically sealed entertainment centers.Sadly, some of the most cruel and hurtful things that have been done to me have been done by Christians who believed that they were being loving. What am I to make of that?These are questions that everyone asks in their head, but not as many ask out loud. The church often dismisses them with glib, religious catch phrases like, “Just have for faith,” or “God works in mysterious ways.” When people are unsatisfied with these answers, we start to view them as ‘backsliders’ and treat them as objects of pity — as if they were poor, lost souls.

The word ‘nice’ does not appear in the Bible — not even once. Yet, on the surface it seems that the goal of Christianity is to be a nice person (and we even fail miserably at that a lot of the time), and teach other people to be nice people as well.

Somehow Christians think this is more healthy than confronting an issue head on? Give me a break. Conflict is the catalyst for growth. Resistance is what builds strength. Consequently, when we avoid conflict and having difficult conversations, because we think that is the loving thing to do, we actually to a disservice to ourselves and others.

Blue & Grey is not just sublime in the classical sense but also in the contemporary position in such a way Taehyung created a song that inevitably involves both artist and audience to the present condition, and transcends the experience of consuming his song.

However, according to James Fowlers’ Six Stages of Faith Development, the person who is experiencing a “faith crisis” may actually be further advanced in their faith development than the person who has never done so. After all, how can faith be proved genuine unless it is genuinely tested? So why do we treat people who have doubts as if they were on the brink of Hell? Why do we pray for them to return to the kind of certainty that we possess, as if faith weren’t even part of the equation. Why do we worry about them falling out of the faith all together? Maybe we’ve convinced ourselves that it’s unhealthy to discuss these difficult questions. We worry that, exposed to the light, our faith will fade away. If it’s tested it may just shatter. But, if our faith is that fragile, it probably was never true. If our God is so easily defeated, he is probably not really the true God.

The problem with the idea that the goal of Christianity is to be a ‘nice person’ is that is causes us to become conflict-avoiders and peace-keepers, especially with other Christians. However, the simple truth is whatever we do not process, we eventually project onto others. If left unaddressed, our offences will express themselves — one way or another. So while ‘nice’ Christians often avoid full-frontal conflict, they end up becoming the worst offenders when it comes to passive-aggressive behaviors.

I was once just as judgmental. I was once a zealous defender of the faith. I once berated people for their lack of faith, for their poor theology and for their ‘laissez faire’ approach to sin.
I was once just as judgmental. I was once a zealous defender of the faith. I once berated people for their lack of faith, for their poor theology and for their ‘laissez faire’ approach to sin.
In church, we ought to be able to express our doubts to each other without fear of reprisal or judgement, but too often this is not the case. Anyone who is really progressing in their faith will eventually stumble onto some troubling questions, such as:

I can imagine it being said in church. Can you? Maybe not exactly in those words, but the overarching sense that God is angry and displeased with you, just seems to come through.

Yet, even as the ‘Christian’ keyboard warriors get ready to start hacking away at their response to this blog post, expressing their disapproval at my poor doctrine, offering to pray that I “see the light,” grilling me about the version of the Bible that I use, I will choose compassion.

“Don’t tell anyone,” one of my neighbors told me when he came over to borrow some

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